This Bride Realized Her Parents Gave Her A Wedding Gift Based On Her Husband’s Salary, And People Have Some Things To Say

A woman found out her parents gave her sister more than double the amount of money she was given for her wedding. Her parents explained they “gifted her according to the lifestyle she chose.”

There’s a really entertaining subreddit called Am I The Asshole? and it always has me like:

In case you’re unfamiliar with the subreddit, it’s basically where people post about their interpersonal conflicts, and then other users can “vote” on who the asshole is in the given situation.

“My husband and I (28M, 28F) got married recently, and my sister (31F) and I were discussing the wedding after returning from the honeymoon. We are very fortunate to have grown up in a household where my parents made very good money. They were generous with us, but raised my sister and I to be hard-working and not dependent on them as adults.”

“My sister and I both do well financially as does her husband (36M). My husband loves his job, but it is not one that has a ton of earning potential. He and I met in college, so I’ve always known this was his plan and we are very happy with our setup.”

“During my discussion with my sister, she asked me if my husband and I were planning to use the wedding gift money from my parents to do a particular renovation for which we’ve been saving, but I was very confused because the gift, while extremely generous and appreciated, wasn’t nearly enough to cover that. She told me how much she had been gifted and it was more than twice what we had been given.”

“After that I couldn’t stop thinking about why I had gotten less, so my sister encouraged me to ask, and during a call with my mom I couldn’t stop myself from asking. Her response was that it wasn’t my business, but since I did ask, my sister has chosen a partner that can accommodate the lifestyle she’s used to, so they’ve gifted her accordingly. They also gifted me according to the lifestyle I’ve chosen.”

“We are not entitled to gifts of any size in life, but I still can’t help feeling hurt that my parents feel that my husband and I are less deserving than my sister and her husband based on income. Meanwhile, my parents are angry at both my sister and me for having this discussion and bringing it to them,” she concluded.

In a comment, the wife later added, “I could be the asshole because I asked my parents why my sister was gifted more money than me, which can certainly be seen as ungrateful asshole behavior because gifts are not an entitlement.”

Personally, after reading that, I was as speechless as Oprah here:

Redditors certainly had much to say about the situation. The majority of people agreed that OP was not the asshole here, including one user who goes by u/gnothro.

“There’s a lot of reasons that would have made sense and been OK, including a simple ‘we’re not in the same financial situation we were in when we gave your sister her wedding gift.’ But to make it about how much you guys make, is basically a passive-aggressive way of saying ‘you got less because you picked a partner we feel is beneath you.'”

“There’s a lot of reasons that would have made sense and been OK, including a simple ‘we’re not in the same financial situation we were in when we gave your sister her wedding gift.’ But to make it about how much you guys make, is basically a passive-aggressive way of saying ‘you got less because you picked a partner we feel is beneath you.'”